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May 15, 2020

The Challenges of Being Quarantined with Your Partner.

For many of us, we are one more month into being quarantined with our partner. While this can be an opportunity to take a break from the busyness and distractions of our “normal” lives and reconnect with our loved o...

April 15, 2020

The Fantasy Bond

With people now having to “shelter in place,” couples are finding themselves spending an unusual amount of time together. In these circumstances of extended exposure to one another, problems can fester and begin to boil over and issues between partners...

March 15, 2020

These trying times are hard on us psychologically!

With the focus on the very real threat of the Coronavirus to our physical health, it is easy to overlook the impact that this pandemic is having on our mental health. The virus and our necessary response to it are creat...

February 15, 2020

How to Deal with Anger and Preserve Love

Feeling love and emotional harmony with your partner is wonderful; feeling angry is not! But anger is a natural part of life and is therefore inevitable, especially when two people share life closely. One of the biggest challenge...

January 30, 2020

Is your critical inner voice keeping you from reaching your goals?

It’s come to the end of January, almost one month into our New Year’s Resolutions for 2020. So how’re you doing with yours? Do you know that, according to the American Psychological Association, 93% of p...

December 15, 2019

PsychAlive’s 10 Gift Giving Suggestions for the Holiday Season

During the month of December, bloggers everywhere are offering their gift giving suggestions for the holidays. There are ideas for the perfect gifts to buy him, her, the kids, the in-laws, the dog, the house...

August 15, 2019

When we share our sadness, we are our most open and undefended

Joy’s smile is much closer to tears than it is to laughter.

—Victor Hugo, Hernani

We often retreat from love when it unconsciously arouses painful feelings of sadness. This is not the kind of sadness that come...

July 15, 2019

The Fantasy Bond is Behind the Myth of the Soul Mate 

I know people who say their ultimate relationship goal is finding a soul mate. They’re looking for a kindred spirit who they were meant to be with. Is this appealing to me? I can see how the idea that there might be...

June 15, 2019

What I’ve learned about being a mother.

This Mother’s Day was the 40th one that I have celebrated as a mother. And it has occurred to me that I have earned the right to answer the question: “What piece of advice would you offer about being a mother?”  I used to think th...

April 15, 2019

How your negative self-image puts you at odds with your lover.

The short answer is: yes! Hating yourself puts you directly at odds with someone who loves you. You each have diametrically opposed points of view about you: your’s being negative and your partner’s being po...