Does it feel like your relationships never work out? After a breakup, do you spend most of your time dwelling on what the other person did to cause it, rather than reflecting on yourself? It may seem obvious that you want your romantic relationships to work, and that love and long-term commitment are your ultimate goals. But what if, instead of letting love in, you’re unconsciously pushing it away? And if so, how do you stop?
Daring to Love will help you identify the self-protective behaviors that keep you from building the intimate, lasting relationship you truly desire. Using techniques based in the authors’ groundbreaking voice therapy—the process of acknowledging unhealthy patterns aloud—you’ll uncover the real reasons you’re sabotaging your love life and learn to quiet destructive thoughts that are rooted in fear of rejection, shame, or jealousy. With this book as your guide, you can approach your relationship with openness and fearlessness—two key ingredients for romantic bliss!
“A wonderfully wise, beautifully written, and eminently practical book for anyone wishing to establish and maintain deeper, richer, and more lasting close relationships.” Phillip R. Shaver, PhD, distinguished professor of psychology emeritus, University of California, Davis
is founder and editor-in-chief of PsychAlive.org, an online mental health resource visited by millions of people each year. She has also been a principle editor for many of the books written by her husband, author and clinical psychologist Robert W. Firestone. Among these are The Fantasy Bond, Fear of Intimacy, and Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice.
“The key insight is that most individuals need to stop pushing away love, and this book provides a wealth of useful interventions.” Howard Rosenthal, EdD, author of Encyclopedia of Counseling and Encyclopedia of Human Services
“Perhaps the last paragraph of this book explains why it deserves to be read, integrated, and actualized into practice: 'Love is worth believing in. Love is worth fighting for. Love is worth the personal challenge. No other endeavor offers higher rewards.'” Pat Love, EdD, author of The Truth About Love
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”